When we help clients neurobiologically separate out early shame from grief, we bring them to the awareness of how present day experiences are actually a confusing entanglement of calling cards from the past. As the responses separate and integrate with support into the client’s present day self, a felt sense of choice and autonomy emerge.

A Client Scene:

“It happens every time no matter what I say or how nice I try to be. My husband starts scolding me and I collapse.” Megan’s gaze sadly drifts to the left.

“When you feel that in your body, how old are you?” I ask.

“Young. It’s like I want my father’s love, and I know I’m not good enough.” She shrugs.

“How does this feel to the adult you?”

“Well, I know the not being good enough is not true.” She shrugs again. There’s silence.

Read More here at Inside Shame Transformation Blog by Caryn Scotto d’ Luzia, MA, SEP, AST Model Developer

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